How To Make Him Fall In Love With You After The First Date
When you’ve been single for a little while or what seems like an eternity, there are some tricks you can learn to make him fall in love with you. This is powerful stuff, ladies, so make sure you want to keep this guy around long-term before you use these tactics.
When you’re looking for “the one” or even Mr. Right Now, love and lust can become intertwined and lemme tell ya. It’s a beautiful thing when you have both of these primal urges going on at the same time.
If you’re searching for love and want to make him fall in love with you, follow this advice
You’re going to find real ways in this article to make him fall in love with you and only you. These are not really tricked like pulling a rabbit out of a hat. And they won’t make you a trickster either. These are tried and true ways to make a man have deep feelings for you.
Many women have used these techniques first-hand. They really work. I’m a dating coach and want to steer you in the right direction, so after you find the cowboy of your dreams, you can keep him around for a long time.
If you want to make a guy fall in love, you’ve got to be willing to wait a while
There is something to be said about patience. If you’re already head over heels for a guy, it can be a vulnerable place for you. But he might not be at your level quite yet. But after you learn a little more ways to build attraction, you’ll be on your way to the love you’ve been waiting for.
Taking your time to get to know a man is hard (I know from experience). Because when it’s good and you might want things to happen “Right Now!” But a lot of men are slower than women when it comes to opening their hearts.
Some couples fall in love at first site. And their others who have dated for months and are still not sure if things are going to work out.
How long does it take for someone to fall in love?
Well, it depends. Therapist Aimee Hartstein told Bustle, “In my estimation, it takes longer than a lot of people think that it does!” There’s no one-size-fits-all for every person when it comes to falling in love.
People go at their own pace when it comes to falling in love, so don’t force it
When you start forcing someone to speed things up is when people can feel pressure. When it comes to love, pressure doesn’t equal love. More than likely it equals stress for a lot of people. Especially the ones who have had their heart broken in the past. He can give you some subtle body language clues that will let you know how he’s feeling.
So if you feel yourself trying to force a man to get up to your speed, learn to put on your relationships brakes
When you like someone, or even feel deep love feelings toward them, it doesn’t mean they’re feeling them for you yet. So give yourself and him time to see what transpires.
While all this waiting is fine and dandy (OK, not really), you need to learn the things that make a man fall in love with you. After you figure these out, he will probably want to speed things up (if he’s the relationship kind of guy that is).
If you want to make him fall in love with you, make him feel needed
We know you’re a good solid country girl who doesn’t need a man (because you can take care of yourself). But if you don’t let a man help you, he’ll find someone who appreciates his help.
So if you want to make a man fall madly in love with you one of the keys is to let him do things for you. It’s in a man’s DNA to help someone he cares about. Men like to provide for people.
So if you have something heavy you need to be carried, let him handle it. You can probably change a tire on your truck, but do you really want to? I know I don’t. If you don’t have AAA, and you’re dating a guy, he’s much better, and you’ll have more fun than with the tow truck guy.
Giving a man a feeling of purpose will help him step into his masculine sense of self. It’ll make him feel manly around you, and this is what you want (unless you want to date a more feminine type of man). There’s more than giving him something to do as well.
Give him time to miss you
I know if you really like a guy, you feel like you want to spend every second of every day with him. He could feel that way too, but making him miss you because you’re a busy gal will give him time to think about you.
Women often fall in love with a man while she’s in his presence, but men, on the other hand, fall in love when they’re away from a woman. Giving both of your time apart will give you something to talk about when you come together again.
Time apart can keep your relationship fresh according to Psychology Today.
Spending time together is essential for a relationship to grow as well, but time away from each other creates desire. Desire is a good thing when it comes to making a man fall for you.
Don’t compliment him just because you feel like you’re supposed to do it
When you do compliment a man— you’ve got to mean it! Don’t throw out compliments like glitter on a fancy girl’s nails. But do sprinkle them throughout your time together.
If you’re on a date and he looks handsome in that blue shirt, tell him it gives him an unfair advantage over other men. He’ll probably want to wear that shirt every day. Whenever he sees the shirt hanging in his closet, it’ll make him think about how you made him feel when he wore it.
Let’s say the guy you’re interested in has a strong work ethic (if he’s a country guy this is also built into their DNA!). When you appreciate a man for things that he values with your words, he’ll remember how you made him feel.
When you compliment a man for not only his looks but his values, it can mean even more to him. But I don’t think there’s a man on the planet that minds being told that he’s handsome either.
Don’t just compliment him show him respect as well
There was a study that asked men one single question. If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure…to be left alone and unloved in the world, or to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone?
Of the 400 men in the original group of guys 74% said they would instead feel unloved than disrespected and inadequate. The researcher, Emmerson Eggerichs, came to the conclusion that men need respect as much as he needs air to breathe.
Respect is essential to men. Here are a few things you can do to show your guy you respect him
Don’t micromanage him. If he’s helping you with dinner and cutting onions into slices instead of squares like you usually do it— let it go. They’ll sautee just fine that way too.
If you have a problem with something he said or did, don’t do it in front of people. Have a conversation in private about it.
Talk about the positive things he does instead of complaining about the things you don’t like. If he did something helpful, make sure he knows you appreciate it. E
Also, appreciate his masculinity
When he does something different than you, you can tease him about it. You can say, “You’re such a man!” Most men love being told that they are manly. Tell him with your words.
Being masculine isn’t just about being macho and loving on his muscles. It’s also about him being a gentleman. When you’re coming to a door, slow down and let him open it for you. And don’t forget to thank him for it!
Do tell him that you like him
You don’t have to say those three tiny words too soon. But when you’re interested in a man, don’t play games with him. Because a masculine man isn’t going to want to date a game-player.
If you had a great date, send him a text that says, “I had a great time this evening. I think I like you :).”
Or something like, “You’re my favorite distraction,” or even something simple such as “I’m thinking about you.”
This isn’t being pushy, but you are still letting him know that he is in your thoughts. Men like this. Even if you think about him around the clock, you don’t have to tell him that. Even if you had some fireworks when you met on New Year’s Eve.
Tell him what you do like and what you don’t like
If he suggests eating Chinese, and you despise it, do tell him you would prefer to eat something different. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. If he asks you to go ice climbing and you don’t like being cold, don’t put on your parka and mittens and pretend this is something you want to do.
Men love when a woman is sweet but not a pushover. So when you keep your boundaries, appreciate him plenty, and let him know he’s a good man, these are a few of the tricks to make him fall for you.
Dina Colada is dating coach who has appeared on MSN, YourTango and Women’s Health. She helps singles date the smart way. Get her free love-attracting book and audio tracks at DinaColada.com