There are lots of perks of dating a farmer, and there are challenges as well. The farm life is gratifying when you put your attention on the things you love.
But if you love the country life, or end up falling in love with a farmer — You learn to see the good in everything, because you are surrounded by loving people who love the land and their family.
I grew up on a big cattle farm — But didn’t put much time in as an actual farmer. I was a skinny weakling girl, so I didn’t have the pleasure of throwing up scratchy hay bales onto the tractor in the 90-degree heat, (thankfully!).
I would see my brother, my uncles, granddad and a slew of cousins covered in sweat wearing hot jeans in the summer sun. Growing up on a farm taught me a lot about life and it will you too.
When you’re dating a farmer, you will look at the bright side of life — Because you have to do it.
Farmer’s get up early in the morning and stay out until the sun goes down, and if things aren’t unicorns and rainbows, your farmer man can handle it, and so will you.
I know you want to hear the real story. And I want to give you one fact about farmers first.
According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics the median pay in 2017 for a farmer was around $69,620 per year or $33.47 per hour. So let’s start with that.
Farmers are good providers for you and your family. They will make sure the bills are paid, and the cows are fed — Because they have to. Farmers are masculine men and take care of business. They have to. Their farm and family depends on him being a responsible person.
They will do what it takes to make the farm run as smoothly as possible. His schedule may not always be the perfect one you’ve dreamed of — Because problems arise.
Cows get sick, and plants need watering. When something needs to be taken care of, they will make sure it is done because their livelihood depends on it.
He can lift at least 40 pounds. Hay bales weigh a minimum of 40 pounds up to 100 pounds, so you know if you need an air conditioner carried upstairs — He’s got your back.
Your man will be built touch and can help you do things that you aren’t strong enough to do by yourself.
They know how to fix everything. If your lamp isn’t working or you need new brakes on your car — He’ll know how to fix it.
Farmers are passionate about their life. They have to be because they wouldn’t do it otherwise. Farming is hard, and they will love their work.
Even if they complain about it raining when they need to cut hay — They’ll wait it out and cut it when it’s dry.
Your man won’t be addicted to social media. Farmer’s don’t’ have time to play on Instagram because they’re busy. You know — They’re farming!
Perks of dating a farmer: Settling down is in their nature. Farmer’s don’t easily leave the land they love. So he’s not afraid of commitment. He’s committed to his farm, his animals and especially his dog if he has one.
Farmers already have roots so if you don’t mind moving to where he is; he won’t be leaving anytime soon.
They like to spend time at home when they’re not working. He’s going to be tired, so expect him to want a relaxing time. This is the time you can share together.
He might not talk much, but he will keep you good company while you cuddle up on the couch.
If you’re a morning person — You’re wake time will align with his.
You will get to be one with nature every day. He’s waking up with the sun, and he will appreciate it — Because it will be a good day for him to take care of business.
You’ll build up a good immunity. There’s a thing called the “Farm-Effect.” There was a study in the Journal of Allergy And Clinical Immunology showing that Amish kids living on farms have 50% reduction in allergies, asthma, and gut-related problems compared to children growing up in environments that are more sterile.
Apparently, dirt is right for you!
He will be self-motivated. You don’t have to worry about waking him up to go to work— Ever.
You’ll have plenty of alone time. Farming takes all day and sometimes more. If you are an independent person, you’ll never have to worry about getting alone time.
Your life will never be boring. Tractors break, new farm hands are around asking you for sandwiches, and the rain can change everything. If you like the unexpected — This lifestyle will leave you with an air of mystery every day for the rest of your life.
Exercise will be in your life if you help our your farmer boyfriend. If you like helping around the farm (he’ll gladly accept your hand in his work), you’ll get plenty of miles in and build up some muscle.
You can learn to drive a tractor. Who doesn’t want to learn this? Life skills will be something you have plenty of when you share your life with a farmer.
If you like the outdoors — You can spend time with your partner. You can hike to the barn and see him in 5 minutes or less. He might stop for a quick kiss, but then he’ll get back to feeding the cows. They’re hungry.
Your farmer boyfriend or husband will know how to run a business. He will know how to do paperwork, research equipment, fix things, and be experienced in all-things-business.
If you ever need his advice — He’ll be willing to share his knowledge.
Neighbors will love you and your farmer partner.
Farmers are known for helping out neighbors in tough times. If a car is stuck— He’s the one with the tractor. He knows how to give the neighbor's dog penicillin if it’s sick. He can also plow snow and till up gardens.
Everyone will love you, him and your tractor.
He can teach you about what he knows.
And he knows plenty: About the weather, insects, weather patterns, how to put a uterus back inside a cow, fertilizer ratios, ph levels, when to change the oil in the tractor. You know — Regular farmer stuff.
If you’re not independent yet, you will be. Farmers work not all the time, but a lot of the time. So if you’re co-dependent, he’ll teach you how to get along all day by yourself.
If you want to see him, helping unload fertilizer out of the back of his truck will undoubtedly help you learn to be alone — Unless you like that kind of thing.
You’ll have two showers! One upstairs, and another in the basement or outside shower (Hopefully). Your man will be scrubbing of the majority of his dirt in a different bathroom. So you’ll get more space for your stuff on the counter.
Your life will be spontaneous. Things are never the same on a farm.
A farmer knows how to be as flexible as a blade of grass. He has to be. There’s not controlling when a cow is going to have a baby.
He’ll probably want kids. Farms are often handed down to the children — So kids are in his future.
You’ll never complain about your farmer being “lazy.” He’ll wake up with the birds and stop working when he’s exhausted entirely on his own.
The snooze button is something you’ll never have to hear. The alarm goes off once. That’s it, and at this point, he probably doesn’t even need it.
They are part of their community. They know their neighbors.
You can build your community at farmer’s markets. If you like getting to know people in your area you can sell the produce, meat, cheese or eggs from your farm at the local market. This is a great way to get to know everyone around your farm.
You’ll be in the know when it comes to the weather report. Your farmer hubby or partner will tell you the weather report every day. You’ll never wonder if you should bring an umbrella or not.
Family Values are essential to them. Families are everything to farmers. So be prepared for the commitment. Dating a farmer isn’t always easy— But if you learn to go with the flow your lives together will flourish.
There are many perks of dating a farmer, what are your favorites?