15 Signs He Finds You Attractive — Body Language Clues
So you’ve landed your first date, and you’re wondering something important. What are the signs that he finds you attractive? We know you might be analyzing every text he sends. How do you know if a guy likes you or not?
Signs he finds you attractive aren’t always obvious
Until you figure out how to read a guy’s body language. People don’t communicate just with their words. There’s so much more to attraction than what someone tells you.
When you meet someone for the first time or the second, from online dating at Bonfire, some clues will let you know what a guy is thinking.
There was a study done by Albert Mahrabian in the 1950s and figured out that only 7% of language is verbal. 55% of signs he finds you attractive will be with his body language. 38% of communication is through tone and voice.
So if you really want to know if a guy is into you or not, don’t just open your ears
Make sure you keep your eyes, and your heart open to discover the clues! These clues will let you know if he’s into you, or you’re just getting played. There are dating rules he’ll follow if he a keeper.
He can’t stop smiling when he’s around you
Smiling is a natural human reflex. When a guy spends time with you and smiles a lot, that speaks volumes. If he can’t and doesn’t want to stop shooting you a grin, this is a big sign.
Warning! Watch out for fake smiles. There’s one body language clue that his smile is genuine. If a guy is smiling and he has crinkles around his eyes this is a good indicator that it’s the real thing.
So if his teeth are glimmering in the light, but there are no eye crinkles, watch out! He could be a faker.
If you keep your eyes peeled you may notice his skin gets flushed (if he has light skin)
If a guy is attracted to you, his cheeks may get red. The blood flowing to his face makes this happen. Here’s a hint! A similar thing happens to mimic an orgasm effect when his face gets flushed.
Women wear blush and lipstick for the same reason. Evolution is on your side when spotting a guy’s face getting red when he’s around you. You get to have a sneak peak!
He discovers excuses to touch you
It’s a no-brainer. When someone’s attracted to you, they'll want to touch you. Even if it seems by accident. But usually, men are bolder than that. If he taps you on the shoulder or wipes a crumb off your cheek, these are more signs he finds you attractive.
Now you’ve got a few under your belt, don’t think he’s in love just yet
If a man shows a few traits, but not a lot of them, he’s still figuring things out with you. Here’s the next big one.
He looks deeply into your eyes
You know the old saying eyes are the windows to the soul. When a man takes time to look into your eyes, it can make your heart race.
How to know if a guy is attracted to you with his eyes.
When he holds your gaze for more than a couple of seconds, that’s a clue. He might be interested in seeing your eyes under the covers too.
If his eyes are soft and relaxed around the edges is another sign. Believe me, when his eyebrows are raised a little, and he has that mischievous look in his eye — watch out, because he could be into you.
The right smile says a lot
Eyes meet across the table between the two of you... He’s got a coy smile. You know what he’s thinking. Or maybe you don’t. But you can bet if its the right kind of smile he’s hoping you get to find out what he’s thinking about.
Watch out for the eyes that drill into your soul. These kinds of looks are not the good kind. It’s a more aggressive sign, and he might be thinking not-so-kindly-thoughts.
Remember this: The eyebrow raise is a good sign, sometimes
Guys do this without even thinking about it. Especially when they’re into you.
It’s just a human thing for guys to do when something grabs their attention. You can bet your bottom dollar that he’s not doing that when his buddies enter the pub. He might smile, but he’s definitely not making eyes at those guys!
Well, you’ve got to know that a man’s brain isn’t wired the same as yours. Guys like to look at all kinds of women. So if this is the only sign he’s given you — it’s not enough to show a ton of interest.
Keep on the lookout for the rest of these tell-tell signs he finds you attractive. Keep a mental tab of how many he’s got on the list.
His torso is facing yours
Don’t jump to the conclusion that he wants to jump your bones just yet. He might think you’re funny or the conversation is excellent. So he turns your way. Add this to the tally and see how many signals he’s given you all night.
Even though his torso is facing yours, there are subtle body language nuances you’ll need to be aware of. Take a mental note of these three body cues.
Here are the subtle things you need to notice
Are his torso and his feet pointing in your direction? This is a signal that he’s focusing just on you. The rest of the world, well, he could care less about it right now. You are the center of his universe right now. Enjoy it.
If you’re in a group and his torso is facing away from you — do his feet still turn toward you? That’s a good sign too. It's a subtle cue that he’s focused on you even though his conversation might be elsewhere.
Let’s say you’re in a conversation with him and you get interrupted by a friend, a waiter or a hostess. Does he only turn his head, and not his whole body to the other person? That is one more sign that he’s into you.
Those baby blues or browns or hazels are looking when you’re not paying attention to him
Well, if you are looking somewhere else and turn back to see him staring at you, this is another one of the signs that he finds you attractive. He might want to know if you’re still checking up on him.
He knows you’re interested if you’re checking him out. So it doesn’t always mean he’s interested. He might just like the attention.
He can’t help but lean your way
Has the guy you’re interested in ever done this? Don’t pick out your ring just yet. Because of the subtle things you need to be aware of.
Everyone has an estimated amount of personal body space they like to maintain
According to Kathryn Sorrels, a professor from California State University at Northridge said, “It tells us a lot about the nature of a relationship. . . . So if someone comes more into your personal space than you are used to, you can often feel like, ‘What's happening here?’ And it’s easy to misread what someone is actually communicating if you only come from your cultural perspective.”
People from different cultures have varying personal space preferences. People from South America like less space than someone from Saudi Arabia.
Here are the average personal space stats from the United States sample
Personal space with a stranger is 3.1 feet. A personal acquaintance is about 2.3 feet. And an intimate relationship is 1.6 feet.
So if a guy is getting closer and he’s from the US, you know the average distance. It’s also more of a signal if his arms are open and his body also leans in. If his body stays back and his head comes forward, this is an area signaling that he might not be interested.
He’s peacocking when he’s around you
Everyone wants to look good in front of someone they’re attracted to, that’s the general rule. If he’s crushing on you, he’s going to try to look good in front of you. This is especially true if he wasn’t a great dresser before.
His boots are clean, and so are his fingernails. That’s a big deal for a farmer or a country guy. So if he doesn’t have time to press his white shirt, don’t be alarmed. Farming life keeps these guys busy.
A man who likes you will want to win you over. If you like the way a guy dresses, tell him when he looks good. I bet he’ll be showing up looking good every time (or almost every time).
Men also preen themselves when they’re interested
Stretching in front of you so you can see his body, or stroking his hair or even flexing his muscles a bit. These are a few more ways to know if a guy is attracted to you or not.
Social media is not on your date
His phone stays in his pocket, that’s a good sign. He wants to give you the attention you deserve. He’s telling you sans phone that you are worth his time.
When babysitters call, or the cow has a calf, these are pretty good excuses to pick up during a date. Don’t take offense if he answers when it’s important. He can pick up his phone after your date with some good online dating messages from you.
His body mirrors your actions
This is a sure-fire way to know he’s attracted to you. If you touch your face, he touches his. Or if you lean in, he leans in toward your body.
Mirroring is a huge sign that he likes you.
His posture is not too relaxed around you
Guys like to puff up their chest and look important when they’re attracted to a woman. If a guy’s posture looks good and it looks like he’s doing it on purpose this is a winner. His shoulders go back, his head is high, and his chest is out.
He’s showing off. Enjoy the show!
Now you can give him the signals that you’re interested in him. Men love curves, so tilt your head to the side. Toss your hair. Smile. Laugh at his jokes. Lean in and have the time of your life!
Dina Colada is dating coach who has appeared on MSN, YourTango and Women’s Health. She helps singles date the smart way. Get her free love-attracting book and audio tracks at DinaColada.com
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